Tamar was the most remembered daughter of King David. She wasn’t necessarily well-known because of valiant deeds but she was often seen in the King’s court. Tamar is famous for the horrible act done by the hand of her half-brother Amnon.
It all started when Amnon had strong feelings for Tamar and fell helplessly in love. He was so in love with her he became thin. Jonadab helped plot a scheme to draw Tamar to his chamber. Then the story says:
“And David sent home to Tamar, saying, “Now go to your brother Amnon’s house, and prepare food for him.” So Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house; and he was lying down. Then she took flour and kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes. And she took the pan and placed them out before him, but he refused to eat. Then Amnon said, “Have everyone go out from me.” And they all went out from him. Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them to Amnon her brother in the bedroom. Now when she had brought them to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, “Come, lie with me, my sister.”
But she answered him, “No, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing should be done in Israel. Do not do this disgraceful thing! And I, where could I take my shame? And as for you, you would be like one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king; for he will not withhold me from you.” However, he would not heed her voice; and being stronger than she, he forced her and lay with her.
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone!”
So she said to him, “No, indeed! This evil of sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me.”
But he would not listen to her. Then he called his servant who attended him, and said, “Here! Put this woman out, away from me, and bolt the door behind her.” Now she had on a robe of many colors, for the king’s virgin daughters wore such apparel. And his servant put her out and bolted the door behind her.” 2 Samuel 13:7-18
Now we all know the story of Joseph’s coat of many colors and it’s also amazing to know Tamar had a robe of many colors too:
Then Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her robe of many colors that was on her, and laid her hand on her head and went away crying bitterly. And Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother; do not take this thing to heart.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. 2 Samuel 13:19-20
Little is known about Tamar’s life after she was violated but what we know is that she went to her brother for support. Years later, Absalom was gone and that support she found in her brother disappeared. Hopefully, after so much tragedy hit her family, Tamar found God’s support and comfort.
No matter what horrifying events take place, Abba Father, the One True God, will be your hiding place. The bible says Tamar remained desolate but this doesn’t have to be. There is always hope for your life and true LOVE will find you.